Monday 11 June 2012

Should we live a life of success or a life of significance?


Should we live a life of success or a life of significance?

Being successful in life has always been a priority of mine. I am extremely self-motivated and have a strong inner drive that makes me competitive. I want to succeed. I will never be simply average. I have always had high standards, picky taste, and high expectations of myself. I enjoy pushing myself to my limits just to see how strong I am. I came to Cape Town this summer knowing all of this already. However what has really made me learn more and grow more as a person is the question that was given to us at the beginning of our class.

Kevin Chaplin, a very inspirational leader, we had the first week of class, asked us the question “Which is more important, leading a life of success or a life of significance?” This question has been in engraved into my head and constantly on my mind throughout this entire trip.

Of course my instant answer to the question is “success”. Who wouldn’t want to be successful? That is what I have hard wired myself with the desire to be. To be the best, to land the job with the good salary, to continue to live the kind of lifestyle my parents have blessed me with, to always be on top or working my way there. But is all that significant to me? Is that what I will solely focus on?  No, that’s not the kind of person I am either. I have always been a firm believer in never stepping on the toes of those who got you to where you are today.  I am a people pleaser as well. Making someone else feel important, worthy, or simply boosting their self-esteem makes my heart smile. Someone else’s happiness makes me happy. That’s a big reason why working with under privileged kids has always been a passion of mine. During service week, making the children of Sir Lowery’s pass feel important was what made me “come alive” within my own self. It was the significance that my inner self was searching for. It was the significance that I crave for in my own life.

The fork in the road that I face is balancing the two out. I will always have the competitive drive along with the big heart. I love the person that I am and the woman that I am becoming and do not want to change things about myself. This trip has been a personal quest for me to learn more about myself and my purpose. Mr. Chaplin’s question is a question that I will forever ask myself when faced with a choice or before I make an important decision. The life I lead is a mirror reflection of the person that I am.

I can now say that this once in a life time experience, this amazing country and Global Lead has made me realized who I truly am and the direction I want to live my life. I know what I stand for, the morals I have and the strengths I was blessed with. The bottom line of this entire experience and to wrap up what five meager weeks has taught me is that, I know who I am, I know where I am from and I know where I am going.







My Vision Statement for my Life:



[Ten years from today…] I am a successful business woman marketing for a professional sports team or product while working on the side as a spokes person for underprivileged or abused children. I am deeply committed to my family, husband, kid(s), and friends and maintain an active and healthy lifestyle. I give back to my community by serving as a mentor to teens at my local church. I have gained personal insight from traveling all over and am able to use that experience along with my strengths (relater, responsibility, arranger, includer, positivity) to bring happiness into other’s lives. I live in a place that inspires my passions and enables me to keep an open mind while continuing to introduce me to new and exciting people.





“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” – Howard Thurman


Saturday 9 June 2012

Adventure Week & the Garden Route!


Well this past week we spent on the road touring the Garden Route of South Africa. Sunday evening our group of around 50 Bafanas were split into two groups. My good friend, Lauren and I of course were the first two names called out that were separated. But needless to say it was okay because I had the opportunity to branch out and meet new girls. I have gained a whole lot of patients from the trip and have honestly realized that I really am an “old soul” (as my mom refers to it.) But overall it was a learning experience! The next five week days went as followed:

Monday: We loaded the army-like buses and spent 8 hours driving to the first hostile we stayed in. The hostile was named “Tube ‘n Axe” and had a rustic camping vibe to it. The hot showers were outside. The FREEZIING cold ones were in the rooms. The rooms varied from a 2 person couple room to a room of 10 bunk beds. I stayed in the massive room with about 15 other girls. Freddy, the very strange bartender, played a very intense game of “ice”. For those who don’t know what it is, it is when you turn around and a Smirnoff Ice is somehow placed in front of you, you have to then get on one knee and chug it as fast as possible. Needless to say my goal was to avoid getting iced and my mission was accomplished! We didn’t do anything else on Monday except stop in a very pintresty town called Wilderness to eat lunch. The rest of the evening we spent around a campfire sharing our highs and lows, favorite moments, and what we want to intentionally work on.

Tuesday: We loaded the buses bright and early at 6:45am and headed out to the safari. We saw giraffas, lions, buffalo, hippoes, antelopes, crocodiles, and so much more. I enjoyed the safari but honestly my mind was on the days second activity: bungee jumping. We loaded back up the buses and headed our way to Bloukrans Bridge. This is the highest commercial bungy jump in the world. It is a whopping 216 meters high, which translates into about 71 stories high. It was insane. The way the bungee worked was everyone was pre-assigned a “jump number” when this number was randomly called, it would mean it was your turn to jump. I was about the 5th or 6th person to be called. They had to call my number out 4 times before I finally admitted it was my number. As soon as I stepped forward, I started balling. I was trying SO hard to hold back the tears but of course it was impossible. As they are strapping me off to face the biggest fear of my life, I have all my new best friends cheering me on in the back ground, along with a DJ blaring dubstep type music. Once you’re all buckled in, you walk to a ledge and they workers shout “5, 4, 3, 2, 1, BUNGEE” and that is when you are suppose to jump off. Well, my jump didn’t exactly go as planned. When I finally found the courage to simply stand up the workers helped me hobble to the ledge. My eyes were closed and tears were streaming out. Finally they put my arms up and begin the count down. “5, 4, 3,..” and all of a sudden I wrap my arms around them and scream “NOO, NO, NO!” and they whip my arms off of them as fast as possible and throw me over the ledge! My initial thought was “holy crap”. I never got that unwanted tummy dropping feeling. The fall was honestly very quiet and almost peaceful. But I really think I actually blacked out. When I finally realize I have hit the first spring I open my eyes and of course I say a few fowl words and immediately close my eyes again. Finally I have landed and I am dangling over this terrifying valley waiting patiently to be rescued. Oh course I am still crying but my tears were a mixed between “holy shit that was scary, but oh my goodness, I made it, I am alive, I am never doing that again.” The time moved in slow motion as I waited for my savior to come rescue me and pull me up. I was still of course in shock so I clinged onto him for dear life and made him hold my hand!! It wasn’t until I was actually laying on the dock attached to the bridge did I finally begin to celebrate. Instantly everyone was there to greet me and express how excited they were for me and how proud they were to see me accomplish something so challenging. I could barely speak as the workers were congratulating me. The first clear sentence I made out was “I am never doing that again, but am so glad I did it.” After my jump, I stayed and cheered on the rest of my friends then went straight to the video shop and purchased the video! So anyone who actually wants to see me look like a complete idiot and get a good laugh at me, I have the video!! After bungee jumping we stopped in this town and played soccer with the school kids. Having played my whole life, I really enjoyed this. However, being so out of shape and not being able to play like I once did was very frustrating at times! We ended up tying with the little kids 4 to 4. After that we headed back to the same hostile and enjoyed another bonfire together along with intimate talks.







Wednesday: Having accomplished the bungee jump, I now had an open, worried free mind and was ready for anything. We woke up again early and loaded onto our buses and headed to the National park. It was FREEZING. But the view was breathtaking. We walked across suspension bridges, which of course would have scared me, but after the bungee jump, I felt invincible! So I strutted across that bridge and even daringly swayed it! After the national park we traveled to the Cat Sanctuary and saw a variety of 5 different African cats. Two of which were the leopards and cheetahs. We got to go in the cages with most of them. We even were as close to an arms distance between the cheetahs. After the cat sanctuary we headed off to the Elephants. I had the opportunity to walk an elephant and even ride it! It was a lot of fun! After the elephants we headed to Money Land for lunch. It was a great restaurant. There were monkeys EVERWHERE! One sneaky little squirrel monkey even ran inside and stole a fry from the floor! It was adorable!! The monkeys were not afraid of humans! They would get right in your face! It was such an experience! I plan on adopting a monkey now. A squirrel monkey in fact, I hope Riley won’t have a problem with that!! Haha We then made hand painted “huggables” that went to support a local foundation in the “slow town.” The slow town was a very interesting concept. If it is a beautiful day, the whole town would shut down at 1pm and head to the beach, if it was raining or to cold outside, kids did not have to go to school and it was completely acceptable! I could not live there at all! I like structure and schedules! We spent the rest of the day traveling to our next hostile, AfroVibe. This was a very nice hostile compared to the first, and the first hostile, I thought was amazing. We spent another night around the camp fire and learned the rules to African beer pong. The people here were very “skater-like” with weird piercings, dreads, billabong type clothing, converses, bandanas and a “stoner attitude”. Nevertheless they were entertaining! One guy was a fire thrower and put on shows of swirling fire around and around. Each night a new traveling guitarist stayed in the hostile as well and would play songs and everyone would sing all night around the campfire.

Thursday: We didn’t have to wake up as early as the previous mornings; we loaded the buses at 8am and headed to an ostrich farm. We got to learn all about ostriches! Ostriches are dumb. They eat rocks! Literally! They would eat anything from high heels, to lipstick, to rocks. Their eyes are bigger than their brains. If you put a bag over an ostrich’s head it has no idea what to do so it just goes to sleep. Haha I was chosen to step forward and receive a “hug” from the ostrich. It wrapped itself around my neck and pecked at the food. Ostriches can also do a 360 with their necks! It had rained the night before so we were not allowed to ride or race the ostriches because if they had slipped and broke their leg, the ostrich would have to be killed. After the ostrich farm we headed to the caves. When you walked inside literally the only word everyone said was “Wow”. It was crazy how massive the caves were. The tour guide, who was a small, entertaining but very sassy man, explained how they use to have classical concerts inside the cave. Thursday night we headed back to the AfroVibe hotel and enjoyed another campfire, this time with s’mores! J We also worked on starting a new bucket list! Here is my new official list:

Courtney’s Bucket List: (sorry it’s kind of long)

1.       Skydiving

2.       Paragliding

3.       Become a mentor for a child

4.       Back pack through Europe after graduation

5.       Visit all 7 continents

6.       Color run

7.       Run half a marathon

8.       Snorkel the Great Barrier Reef

9.       Scuba Dive the Great Barrier Reef

10.   Sponsor an African family

11.   Take a painting class

12.   Hike more often

13.   Take a cooking class/Become a better cook!

14.   Adopt a dog from the shelter

15.   Get a job I am truly passionate about

16.   Ski in Aspen

17.   Mardi Gras in New Orleans before I graduate and with the best friends in the world!

18.   Take surfing lessons

19.   Buy my own home (of course near a LifeTime Fitness!)

20.   Settle down and begin my own family

That’s it for now, it is an ongoing list though!! So I will add more later! J

Friday: We were suppose to go shark cage diving but a cold front came in and we couldn’t go anymore so it was rescheduled for Wednesday. Instead we had the option of quad biking or a ziplining/ropes course. I picked the ropes course because I was obviously on a fascination of facing my heights fear. It was extreamly windy and the trees would sway side to side while we were in them. The guide said, as soon as we were finished, “I’m so glad we are done, I was really nervous about the wind. We probably shouldn’t have gone.” Awesome.  After that we spent 6 hours headed back into the wonderful city of cape town!

Saturday (today): I enjoyed another AMAZING day at the old biscuit mill working on my Cape Town 15! J And now I am watching my roommates sweat anxiously over finishing their papers for the class! I am not receiving any credit for the class, so I’m a little more relaxed about it than them! ;)



Well that was adventure week in a nut shell! Can’t believe that this amazing experience is almost over! It has definitely been the experience of a lifetime and I am so thankful I have such amazing parents to support me and motivate me to try new things!! (Thanks mom and dad!) However, when Sunday comes I will be very excited to head back to the beautiful United States and see all my loved ones!! J That’s it for now!

Saturday 2 June 2012

Just some early morning reflecting! :)


Well I woke up early this morning to sit out on the porch and watch the sunrise. Waking up early and having coffee on the deck with my parents while reading the news paper is something that I honestly just realized how much I enjoyed. And yes—I miss it and them a good bit right now!!

The sunrise is over the beaches and is absolutely unreal. It is so peaceful, calm and serene. I love the mornings and wish I would take more time out of my day or plan around being able to wake up early and enjoy them. It is great time to get a lot of thinking or even reflecting done. (which, yes, of course that is what I have been doing.) There is a couple playing with their two dogs on the beach. The doggies are trying to chase the pigeons but they’re not very successful. Of course it instantly makes me think of my sweet little Riley and how much I miss him. The sight of the waves, the birds, the ships, and the smell of the clean, fresh but a little salty air along with the soft crashing sound of the waves on the shore has made me truly appreciate this beautiful city. I have made the decision that I will absolutely live on the beach, either when I retire, or once I have settled down and before I start a family or I will just be super successful and have a beach house too! J haha Either way, I will enjoy the beach to its fullest capacity, but in a calm, non touristy area. With all of this reflection time, I have really been able to learn so much about myself which in result, opens my eyes to what kind of purpose I want my life to have and the kind of person I want to spend it with (down the road of course though mom!).



Well enough of my morning thoughts! Yesterday was awesome! We started it off my enjoying The Old Biscuit Mill (my all time favorite place!) Mainly because it is like a huge costco with tons of samples everywhere and delicious smells and food everywhere!! I blame the OBM for my Cape Town 15! At least it is well worth it! I discovered frozen yogurt there yesterday, so of course I was in Heaven! Oh and they had my FAVORITE juice there as well!! Lauren and I have made quite a few friends with the owners of different booths, so it was very heartwarming when they remembered our names and waved us down from across the tent! We spoke some with a couple of other locals who shared with us some surfing tips! Today I will attempt my first surfing lesson so the insight was well appreciated!!

After the OBM, we traveled to the 2010 World Cup Stadium. This was AMAZING and something I had on my bucket list. Having such a love for the sport of soccer I naturally enjoyed every second of it. We toured every possible place in the stadium from the field to the holding cells to the locker rooms (yes, they had community showers!) (wouldn’t mind being a fly on the wall in there!!) haha half way kidding of course! As obsessed as I was with the stadium, Lauren definetly had a bigger appreciation for it. She claimed she is having her wedding there, which of course I was all for, because who wouldn’t want to come back to Cape Town! But she was very entertaining to watch having me take her picture literally every 10 steps! Oh and to even take pictures of the grass! Our tour guide must have thought “what silly Americans!”



Well the morning sun has definetly risen. So I guess that means it is about time for me to begin my day! I will be absaileing (which is like scaling down) Table Mountain. And then at 2pm I will be taking my chances in this FREEZING, shark infested water here (it is winter in Cape Town) and have my first surfing lesson!! J Hope everyone has a great day!!

Friday 1 June 2012

"Its a GREAT day to be ALIVE, the suns still SHINING when I close my eyes!"


Well, I know this has been way over due! But here is my best of trying to remember everything that has happened in this past week. Week three for the Bafanas was our education week. We spend the week visiting Robben Island, touring the vineyards, and exploring Cape Point.

While at Robben Island we got to learn a lot about Nelson Mandela and even see his own cell. The dog crate cells were bigger than the prisoner’s cells. It was really hard to understand the tour guide because of his accent. However his name was Zulu and was actually a prisoner there at the same time Nelson Mandela was. An interesting fact about Robben Island was that they allowed the prisoners so study and even gain a college degree from the university there on the island. Zulu also told us that the constitution for South Africa was actually formed there in this cave where the prisoners from different segments would get together to work on the rocks.

The next adventure we went on was to the Haut Espoir Vineyards. Here we learned about different ways to make wines and enjoyed tasting the different varieties. We also even got to have our own competition of who could formulate the best tasting wine. Our bottle was called “Splish and Slpash” and it came in 3rd out of 5th place. We also saw baboons on top of the roof! The vineyards were beautiful.

Wednesday night, however was my all time favorite night. I had my first drag show experience. We went to this place called “Beef Cakes” where the servers were topless over muscled college aged guys, the place was decorated with pink boas, and there were cute hats all over the tables. We walked in there only knowing our group and left with a ton of new best friends! The entertainer, he or she, (not sure what to call it) did a great job of getting everyone involved. The entire restaurant was dancing on tables together, singing, taking body shots, having jokes made, laughing our heads off, and being completely entertained!! At one point the entertainer stole Laurens purse and camera and ran outside the building into oncoming traffic (with the microphone) still singing and trying to take pictures of the cars that were coming her way. (I have posted pictures to my facebook if you want to see a FULL description!! Haha)

Today we toured Cape Point which is the most south western point of South Africa. We climb up thousands of feet high and was able to look over the ledge into the raging ocean. It made me really nervous for bungee jumping off the world’s highest bridge next week! We also got to see a lot of African penguins! They were adorable! Expect when they were changing from their fuzzy kid phase to their adult phase. But it was still cute either way.

I cannot believe this trip is almost over. We only have two weeks left and time has absolutely flown by! I am learning so much about myself, what I want out of life, where I see my future heading and what truly makes me happy! This trip has been all that I have expected it to be and so much more! Thank you mom and dad for all you have done for me and the way you both have raised me! I am one lucky and blessed girl!! J